Weight Loss Support Help

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  • I have seen great strides in my weight loss progress. I've dropped to a Size 18 and I've managed to bypass my first time limit in Zumba Class today - I normally stop and take a breather within 15 minutes of the class. Today I managed to stay active for 30 minutes.

    The problem is, while I have seen great strides in my own weight loss, I am doing a Facebook 1-on-1 weight loss support - once a week - for my friend from college. For the past couple of meetings, he's weighed 196 Pounds. Which isn't bad, considering he started at 200 Pounds and I started at 250 Pounds.

    My biggest concern is, while I'm dropping pants and bra sizes, he's going to stay stuck at 196 Pounds. As we live in different states - he's in North Carolina, I'm in Maryland - I feel like the both of us talking it over via Facebook just isn't enough.

    I want to help him as much as I can, but I feel that I should be doing more. I know this forum has some great posts to help with exercise and diet, but part of me feels that listening and telling him over Facebook that it'll work out in the end isn't enough.

    What should I do?

  • you're so sweet that you want to help! i think the support you provide in the one on one is going to have to be enough...the onus is really on him to keep it up. you can't make him do something he doesnt want to.

  • First, congrats on your weight loss !

    I kinda have to agree with drumsandwires, it's really up to him if he wants to continue or not. You can always say things that would work for him, but maybe he has no interest in dieting and working out anymore ? You're here to encourage him, but you're in no place to force him to do something he doesn't want.

    You should talk to him and ask him honestly about his feelings towards his progress (eg. if he feels left behind or that nothing's working), your exchange program, and that if he wants to quit, it's fine. Don't phrase it in such a way that will make him feel bad for doing so. If he's struggling, be his support. If he wants to stop, let it go. It's a little sad, I know.