How to make friends at conventions?

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#1 nadwolff on 9 years ago

well im going this sunday to a convention and this is my first time going with out friends, and i want to make new friends but i dont know why, im very shy, PLEASE I NEED HELP

#2 Natchan on 9 years ago

Well I've manage to make friends at every convention I've gone to, and really the only advice I have is to not let your shyness hold you back. I used to be super shy, but since I've began going to cons, and opening myself up a little bit I've managed to become more comfortable with talking to people. I met alot of my con friends through photography. I'd ask for a picture, comment on their costume, and then we'd start talking. Before you know it you're exchanging online info!

Good luck, have fun, and may the force be with you!

#3 LavenderCrimson on 9 years ago

If you're shy, one trick is to cosplay a character with a bold, outgoing personality and just pretend to be that person the entire time. If you just think of it as "acting", it's easily to be more chatty than you usually are. Natchan brings up a good point too, asking for photos is one of the absolute best ways to make friends at a con!

p.s. I think there might already be a thread like this x.x

#4 Axelai on 9 years ago

Easiest way to make new friends: Cosplay, then go to a cosplay gathering. Everyone will be from the same show as you, so its easy to just chat with people c:

#5 CodeShogun on 9 years ago

[QUOTE=Axelai;3683146]Easiest way to make new friends: Cosplay, then go to a cosplay gathering. Everyone will be from the same show as you, so its easy to just chat with people c:[/QUOTE]

I seconded that. That's how I became friends with cosplayers. Pick the fandom that you're member of then hit up that gathering and just talk to them about that anime/movie/game/whatever and you should be good to go.

I, too, was very shy but I just hit up the cosplay gathering and I interacted with Kingdom Hearts cosplayers since I'm fan of that game myself. I find it easier that way and I met lot of wonderful cosplayers through them. :D

#6 nadwolff on 9 years ago

thanks to everybody, wish me luck

#7 nessabutterfly on 9 years ago

I've made most of my con friends while waiting in lines. Usually lineup for the costume contests as there is massive amounts of waiting between pre-judging and the stage line-up. You're standing around with nothing to do. Some people twiddle their thumbs or get boerd, but I talk to those around me. I think I've made at least one new friend at every con this way.

#8 Celia Rose on 9 years ago

I make friends from cosplay gatherings. : ) I join cosplay groups on the convention's forum, and then when we meet up later it's easier to talk to the people involved.
A confidence booster is definitely to cosplay your favorite character/fashion. When you feel good about your costume, it shows!

#9 ladyxzeus on 9 years ago

Look at people that seem interesting. Talk to them about neutral issues, like their costume or the weather. Hang around with them if are nice. Make yourself more intresting than what you actually are. ???. Profit.

#10 AriannaParker on 9 years ago

It's actually pretty difficult to be shy at a convention, at least in my own experience.

I've always been ridiculously shy: I don't talk to people, so every friend I've made has started talking to me, not the other way around; when we have to do presentations in class I shake and have trouble breathing, and I'm always (always) worrying about what people think of me.

Then I went to my first convention and somehow, knowing everyone there was just as crazy as me made it impossible to not be like 10x more outgoing. You have to talk to people--it's impossible to resist. You have to run up and say, "Ohmigod can I get a picture of you?" and all sorts of other things. It's amazing--you'll find that anime fans are probably the friendliest group of people ever.

Am I still waaay shy outside of cons? Yep. But honestly, going to cons every so often is helping to build my confidence outside of the epic environment that is a convention.

#11 kingselite on 9 years ago

Hi! my names jake, how are you? you like anime? why so do i. what a coincidence us both liking anime at a place like this. wow you love sarcastic redundant jokes, well then i'm your man. meeting people wears me out and now i'm hungry, want to get something to eat?


thats about the extent of my opening lines.

i think i've seen this thread before (a lot) so to sum up what pretty much ends up in every thread is confidence is key. it works both ways, its hard to muster up the confidence to talk to someone but it also takes a fair deal of it to not shy away when approached. doesn't help when you curl into a ball when people merely look at you.

#12 Outsource416 on 9 years ago

:-)

#13 Roxas78 on 9 years ago

[QUOTE=AriannaParker;3683411]It's actually pretty difficult to be shy at a convention, at least in my own experience.

I've always been ridiculously shy: I don't talk to people, so every friend I've made has started talking to me, not the other way around; when we have to do presentations in class I shake and have trouble breathing, and I'm always (always) worrying about what people think of me.

Then I went to my first convention and somehow, knowing everyone there was just as crazy as me made it impossible to not be like 10x more outgoing. You have to talk to people--it's impossible to resist. You have to run up and say, "Ohmigod can I get a picture of you?" and all sorts of other things. It's amazing--you'll find that anime fans are probably the friendliest group of people ever.

Am I still waaay shy outside of cons? Yep. But honestly, going to cons every so often is helping to build my confidence outside of the epic environment that is a convention.[/QUOTE]
i can agree with this soo much considering im so shy and when i was with my friends cosplaying i did things i would normaly be to shy to do (funny jokes idk lol like putting a peeing sfx while next to a person it was really funny to see theyre reactions XP)

#14 marshmallowpie on 9 years ago

I think the best thing would maybe be to find someone doing a cosplay, or even carrying around merchandise of a series you love, and hope you can have a conversation about that series. Or, you can hope that someone will approach you, though you can't really guarantee that.

#15 DireKitty on 9 years ago

Bring booze. Look for me. Offer to share. Friend +1

In all seriousness though, bringing candy is a GREAT conversation starter.

Offer candy --> ??? --> profit!!!

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