Worried about not being able to pull off the look

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#1 poohe on 2 years ago

Hello!

I've yet to try any crossplays, the main reason being is that I'm worried I might not be able to pull off the look. For example, I may worry that there's not enough makeup in the right places to make it look really feminine and my face still looks like a male, and if my body's feminine enough and if the woman parts like the breasts or hair is too excessive or not enough. Part of it may be due to wanting to pass as a female, some may be part of the desire to getting it just right, some may be due to perfectionism (not sure if both those points are the same...). I'm sure several other people must've had these doubts, so what did you do to get over these problems?

#2 meb9000 on 2 years ago

Thing is, many conventions in general have grown very used to crossplay, especially if you live in a more liberal part of the country like the coastal areas. I was nervous as hell when I first started doing MtF crossplay, but the welcoming environment at conventions makes it a breeze. No one gives you sour looks if you are putting in as good an effort as you can. I can't do makeup very well at all, I certainly don't pass for female very well, but I still enjoy the crossplays and I would even get eager photo requests all the time. Just do your best in the feminization areas that are easier to manage, such as hair removal, body-shaping, and such. Makeup is definitely the skill that separates the elite crossplayers from the average ones.

#3 belligerent on 2 years ago

Hi there! I think once you get over the initial hurdle of self-doubt, you'll find it easier to be confident, or at least that's what I have heard from other MtF crossplayers.

Conventions are a pretty welcoming place in general, and if people do give you flak, those people are assholes and who cares what they think.

You could always post progress pics up here and we can give you some specific feedback to help you on contouring and stuff, if you're worried about it.

#4 Kagamine_Kai on 2 years ago

[QUOTE=belligerent;5033515]Hi there! I think once you get over the initial hurdle of self-doubt, you'll find it easier to be confident, or at least that's what I have heard from other MtF crossplayers.

Conventions are a pretty welcoming place in general, and if people do give you flak, those people are assholes and who cares what they think.

You could always post progress pics up here and we can give you some specific feedback to help you on contouring and stuff, if you're worried about it.[/QUOTE]

I can totally agree with the self-doubt part! My recent experience as Cinderella at a large convention really did make me feel like a princess. If you put in a lot of effort in your overall look, I can tell you from experience that people will support it more than rag on you for it! Despite a few negative interactions, about 90% were totally positive and kids love it!

And don't feel bad about makeup, I have issues with it and I consider myself slightly experienced. There are so many make-up tutorials on youtube, and you may even learn a thing or two from some transwomen! An excellent example is Stef Sanjati, who has a feminizing makeup tutorial. She's amazeballs in my opinion. But I would definitely do lots of trial runs before you actually go to the Con in order to get more experience, and see how your overall look is. It's also great for practicing.

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